Alone again for the gym, but I went…and CRUSHED IT HARD!
Took a full minute off my mile time. I got tighter shoes, and had a slow jog going for a minute. Then I wrecked my chest and triceps and literally dripped sweat. I love it!
You can see how soaked that sweat band is.
Today’s topic is anger. So Christine (my wife that I am separated from) has a date Saturday. My best friend Tim, got so angry at this when I told him. He went on a rant about how I should be angry and if he was me he would kick her out and make her life miserable etc etc etc.
But I am not angry. Hell, I told her to start dating other people. It was my idea. We have been together since she was 20. For 11 years I have been her only adult relationship, and I messed up by not dealing with my problems and hiding from them in video games. I would come home and bury my attention in Ark from the time I got home until I went to bed, only taking a break for dinner (during which I often kept the game up…), and it took a toll on our relationship. I see this, and I accept it. That is part of being a mature adult, and a practicing stoic.
“Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on—it isn’t manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn’t give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance—unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.” – Marcus Aurelius
The whole point of this journey is to become a better person. Breaking down, whining, crying and pointing fingers at others serves me no purpose. Embracing my failure and using it to strengthen myself as a person, brings me closer to calm and therefore, closer to a virtuous life.
Here is one from Seneca on the matter of anger.
“How much better to heal than seek revenge from injury. Vengeance wastes a lot of time and exposes you to many more injuries than the first that sparked it. Anger always outlasts hurt. Best to take the opposite course. Would anyone think it normal to return a kick to a mule or a bite to a dog?” -Seneca
Sure, I can be angry. I could be hateful and spiteful and full of impotent rage, but what is the point? It won’t fix my problems, or marriage. It won’t fix me, and it will steer me farther from the path to inner tranquility and virtue. Remember this the next time anger wells up in your heart…will smashing things and screaming vulgarities really make you feel better?
There is more to life than paying bills and dying.